What inherited family patterns are
Inherited family patterns are the recurring emotional themes that move through a family across generations: how love is expressed or withheld, how anger is handled, what is allowed to be spoken and what must stay silent, how money and scarcity feel, how achievement is rewarded or feared. They are not single events but grooves worn deep by repetition, absorbed so early that they feel less like beliefs and more like the way things simply are.
Crucially, the inheritance is not only wounds. Lineages also pass down genuine gifts: resourcefulness forged in hard times, fierce loyalty, humour as survival, a capacity for endurance. Seeing the whole picture - shadow and strength together - is what turns "my family is just like this" into something you can actually work with.